Avoiding people-101

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First off, we've heard many times that "ignorance is bliss", "silence is the best form of punishment", etc. by our elders...fact is, avoiding a person kinda kills him from the inside. Physical torture can be endured after long, but never mental torture. And this is the deadliest form of mentally torturing a person. 
So today i watched ep.4 of LOKI, A series based on an asgardian villain from marvel studios, I come across a dialogue. Loki, was imprisoned in a bad memory prison, wherein his worst memory keeps on playing with him in it. There he was told:"you are alone and always will be so!". This was so relatable. He felt alone as his OWN brother was alienated by his father, away from him.

When I say AVOID/IGNORE, it means to refuse to take notice of or acknowledge; disregard intentionally. This not only includes you avoiding a person cause he/she did a mistake, it also includes you avoiding a person cause he/she is boring, and seems like a jerk. Well, fact is, don't ignore anyone. 

If you're busy and someone wants to talk or chat with you, tell them you're busy. Moving your mouth or fingers for 30 seconds won't hurt, unless you're defusing a bomb...
When you plainly ignore that person, he/she feels so low, so hollow...and it spoils his whole mood. Similarly, if you are someone's best friend, but you don't wanna be friends anymore, tell it on that person's face. The more you stay silent and ignore that person, the more isolated and depressed he/she feels...and this is never good.
I know I have pretend friends, I know they don't want to talk about me, I know they try to avoid me, they give out unnecessary reasons when I want to meet them, etc. but the best thing I've learnt is to "keep a smile on your face, now matter how pain and agony you are in." This is how you grow stronger. And for those friends who do so, kindly tell it on my face that you don't wanna talk to me, or any person u want to avoid for that matter. It hurts, but not as much as you constantly ignoring them.

Next, we come to the new age communications, called social media. If your friend is continuously chatting, talking about something he/she is interested in, try to pay attention, if you can't understand, or you aren't interested, tell it to that person.

Instead of that, you simply saying "Hmm, Kk, oh" and sometimes seeing and ignoring the message, might be trivial for you, but for the other person? It's a real mood sucker. Those amalgamation of letters in an unhappy way, just sucks out all the jolly mood and makes the person so sad and hollow. You just don't know that. If u wanna reach that person and don't have ample time, do try to reach as fast as possible. 
When you ignore that person, it would SERIOUSLY be so hard for him to avoid texting you or talking back to you, though he wants to.
Hence dear readers, it's better to be loved than hated and better to be hated than ignored. 
If at all you want to say anything, just tell it to them, it eases the burden.
Never avoid a person who loves you, cares for you and misses you a lot, be it a friend, family or someone you love. Then you find you lost the moon while collecting stars.

This is pranav sameer, signing off... :)

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